From the age of 6, I was an emotional eater.
My parents had me on many diet plans starting with weightwatchers when I turned 8 years old. Over the next 20 years I was on over 18 diet plans, 3 different diet pills and was fully consumed with the idea of losing weight.
With every plan, I felt like I was walking on a tight rope and I finally caved. Every road I took led me to gain even more weight. The emotional eating and binge eating took over my life. When I reached my highest weight of 215 lbs. I knew it was just going to keep on going up.
How I changed.
I was missing a key piece. At 24 I was done with the rollercoaster. I was done with binge eating, emotional eating and didn’t want to diet anymore. I didn’t realise this at the time, but I was avoiding my feelings. I genuinely thought it was all about dieting until one day I didn’t eat the cookie that I so desperately wanted and I started to cry. I realised I wanted the cookie to comfort myself and numb something. Another time I was stressed and again I wanted to go for the chocolate. I paused and realised I needed to figure this out.
The common factor was that my emotions lead me to food, so I started learning to stop pushing the feelings away using food. I lost 75 lbs without dieting. I have maintained the weight loss by tuning into my feelings and learning to find other ways to cope with and acknowledge my emotions.
I now help people get off the diet rollercoaster.
This is what lead me to become a therapist and help people learn to stop using food to harm themselves. I now help others like you who have struggled with:
Getting off the diet rollercoaster and getting control of your eating
Losing weight without dieting
Learning to manage your feelings without numbing them
Understanding why you turn to food
Helping you find other ways to find comfort without food
Are you an emotional eater?
Do you use food to comfort yourself instead of feeling what is going on underneath? Maybe you do not even know why you are eating, you just know that your weight fluctuates a lot and you go on and off diets. When you get on the scale or feel your pants no longer fit, this can lead to a lot of anger and guilt towards yourself. You vow that on Monday morning you will start a new diet and will be motivated to lose the weight this time. After a day, a week, a month or even a year the diet fails and you start the cycle over again? Does this sound like you? You may be an emotional eater.
How do I work with my clients?
If you have ever felt you understood that you need to lose weight logically, but emotionally you could not reach your goals, that is because logic (mind) and emotion (body) are two different parts of you. Just because your mind wants you to lose weight does not mean your body will necessarily follow suit. The two parts of you are often engaged in a tug of war with each other hence why you yo-yo diet, but you need them to work together to reach your goals of being healthy and reaching a healthy weight.
I work with you to connect these two parts of yourself. I teach you to understand why that piece of food looks so good at any given time and help you learn that it is not really what you want. You are so used to ignoring your emotions and getting angry and frustrated with yourself when you break a diet instead of understanding why. This is where I help you. Taking active steps and moving forward is crucial to making changes. This is also known as making behavioural changes. After each session you will have a plan for the week to help you work towards your goals.
Through our work together, you will learn how to handle the eating cravings by building your “tool-box” of techniques so you can feel empowered and manage your life without needing to depend on food.
I will help you slow things down and show you work-life balance. I teach you to start tuning into your body and getting to know yourself better. I teach you to tune into feelings before you turn to food and learn new coping skills to truly enjoy what life has to offer (there is much more then just food!). I help you to stop beating yourself up and blaming yourself and use food to nourish your body. No matter how busy you are, I will help you find some time for yourself and ensure you take care of your body and your needs.
What are my credentials?
I am a Registered Psychotherapist who has been in practice working with hundreds of emotional eaters since 2007. In addition to my training, I draw upon my life coaching experience to help clients meet their goals.
I will help you change your habits and stop turning to food for comfort. I will help you understand what it is you are really wanting and help you find happiness without using food.
Here are some of the things some of my clients have in common:
They are unhappy with their body
They want a better relationship with food
They turn to food for comfort
They are hard working living a very busy life
They want to lose weight